December 15, 2016

Holiday Blues

During the holiday season, happy festivities are publicized everywhere you look. The reality is that many older adults experience a heavy burden of grief or depression during this time.  The shorter days, feelings of loneliness, grieving for a loved one who has passed away all contribute to an increase in holiday blues.  About 6 out of every 100 people in the US suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD.  These figures are according to Living Healthy,  a service of the UAMS website which can be found by clicking this link:  UAMS Living Healthy

Unfortunately, a great number of individuals often feel guilty that they cannot share in the happy and joyful season because they simply do not feel up to it. For those who live alone, are widowed, have lost a close relative, are newly divorced, or simply live far away from their family, the holidays may bring about loneliness, depression and heartbreak.   While most who suffer are older adults, women are often affected more than men.

If you or someone you love experiences similar feelings at Christmas, mental health professionals offer these tips for getting through the season:

  • Understand that it is OK to cry and feel sad or lonely. Take the time to grieve, reflect and release your burdens.
  • Don’t feel like you have to pretend for the expectations of others.
  • Make an effort to spend time with friends, neighbors or other people who’s company you enjoy
  • It’s alright to say NO. Don’t let the holidays control you, only participate in activities that you are comfortable with. Keep it simple.
  • Get plenty of rest. Taking care of your body helps you physically feel better.
  • Invite others to share the holiday with you that may be in the same situation.
  • Separate yourself from the source of despair. Take a vacation, day trip or keep yourself busy.

For Family or Friends

  • Telling happy stories and sharing good memories may help them feel more a part of the celebration. Take the time to honor a lost loved one.
  • Be a good listener.  Acknowledge their sadness and let them know you care.
  • Invite them to do things such as go for a walk or to a movie.
  • Pick up the phone and reach out to those who live far away. A little gesture often goes a long way.
  • Ask if you can help with daily tasks. Perhaps a helping hand or running errands will lessen their burden.
  • Start a new tradition that doesn’t remind them of old ones that are no more.

It is important to see your physician if these moods do not improve or stay prolonged.   The key is to ask for help and accept help from others to make the holidays less stressful.